Pregnancy after Loss: Today, I am pregnant, and I have to believe that tomorrow I will be too.

Less than two months after writing about the pain, loneliness and frustration of miscarriage and infertility, I found myself staring at two pink lines. Both lines were dark, and there was no denying that the test was accurately telling me that I was pregnant.


If we’re being honest here, I haven’t been able to enjoy this pregnancy like I was able to with my first child. I have been terrified, and I have lived in a constant state of fear since our miscarriage. We conceived just two weeks following our miscarriage, but we didn’t even know it until two months later when I started experiencing pregnancy symptoms. Since then, I have been terrified of something going wrong. If my little one isn’t active for a while, I immediately think the worse. I might even grab my home doppler and check for the heart beat myself to give myself a momentary piece of mind. If I experience a sharp pain, I freak out. If there is even the smallest amount of blood evident, I immediately think I’m miscarrying. I can’t help it. I’ve programmed myself to think the worst. It wasn’t an intentional thing, but my husband and I spent 5+ years trying to conceive. We spent thousands of dollars on treatment only to experience a failed IVF and suffering a miscarriage. On top of all of the shots, medications, doctor’s appointments and blood work, it was enough to break us.

There truly is no safe moment. I yearned for the nausea, the aches and pains because without those things, I’d question if our baby was thriving. There is no reassurance that our baby’s heart was still beating or even if it’s beating enough to be a viable pregnancy. I questioned, and still question, everything. My Google search history depicts a very insecure and worrisome mom-to-be who clearly isn’t able to enjoy pregnancy. Sadly, I’m too busy looking for things to go wrong that I have selfishly stolen the joy that should be associated with this miracle pregnancy.

That is infertility.

For those who have experience infertility and child loss, it becomes nearly impossible to enjoy your pregnancy. Furthermore, if you’re pregnant with your second child and experienced a miscarriage, loss or infertility in between your pregnancies, it doesn’t make the experience any less painful.

I am 26.5 weeks along, and I still live in fear. I have to assume that this pregnancy will end on a positive note.

Today, I am pregnant, and I have to believe that tomorrow I will be too.

baby 2

Baby Boy Jones #2

This past Monday, Jason and I found out we would be welcoming another little boy into our family. As soon as the ultrasound tech place the doppler on my stomach, I saw that it was a boy. The crazy thing is that I wasn’t super disappointed. Sure, it would have been cool to have a girl, but having a boy would be easier. I know how to handle a boy. We have tons and tons of boy clothes and plenty of trucks, ninja turtles and nerf guns to share between the boys.

We let Braxton announce the gender Monday evening in front of some family. We purchased silly string and let him spray the color string into the air to share with our family if baby # 2 was a boy or girl. It was fun!


We have decided to name our second son, Beckett Levi. We will now have two BLJ’s (Braxton Leland and Beckett Levi) which we didn’t really intend on doing, but we think it’s kind of cool how it worked out.

Thursday night, I started going through tubs of baby clothes and organized out Newborn-6 months clothes. Jason washed them and today I have already organized and folded them into groups. We have started putting together the nursery and decorating which has been fun!

Braxton is really excited about having a brother as are we, and we cannot wait until September to welcome our other rambunctious, wild, fearless little boy into the world! What a journey it has been!


Pregnancy #2: Week TWENTY!

Today we are officially 20 weeks pregnant! I still cannot believe we’ve made it this far considering the journey it took to get here! It’s also Easter, which is also such an incredible milestone, because without Jesus, life would be so less amazing!

I still remember the exact moment we found out that we were pregnant back in January. We were shocked, and we certainly weren’t expecting this miracle to take place. After all that we had been through we had stopped treatment and had discussed the possibility that Braxton might be our only child. But then God happened. He heard our cries and our prayers, and He blessed us with our second miracle. There are no words that adequately describe how blessed Jason and I feel.

So far the pregnancy has gone relatively well. Besides the subchorionic hematoma, back at 11 weeks which landed us in the ER full of worry, all has been smooth. I have an increasingly visible bump, and I feel the baby moving all the time. This baby is so much like Braxton already because he was also super active throughout pregnancy.

Tomorrow, at 1pm, we find out if baby #2 is a boy or girl. People ask us every day what our preference is, but we honestly do not have one. We tried getting pregnant for so long, we spent thousands upon thousands of dollars and experienced a miscarriage, so we just want a healthy baby! We will be announcing the gender Monday night, so make sure to check back in the evening to see what we’re having!

Thanks for all of the continued prayers and well wishes. We are so blessed, and we are beyond excited to welcome another child into our family!

Do you think baby # 2 is a BOY or a GIRL?





20 Things About Me

For those new to following my blog “When Infertility Happens”, I wanted to share a few things about me that you might not know. Feel free to reach out with any questions!

  1. My husband and I have been married for nearly 6 years (May 20, 2011). We’ve been together almost 9 (July 2017).
  2. We have been struggling with infertility for 5+ years
  3. We have a three year old son who we naturally conceived after 2 years of treatment and trying to conceive
  4. We had a failed IVF procedure in July of 2016
  5. We suffered a miscarriage in November of 2016 after FET
  6. We are pregnant with our second child who we natually conceived in December 2016 after our miscarriage. Due Sept. 3rd 2017!
  7. I’m a small business owner (Buzz Mitten Media), and I have another blog: Coffee, Chaos and Giggles that discusses more than just infertility
  8. I love sports. I root for the MSU Spartans, Detroit Tigers, Detroit Lions and Detroit Red Wings.
  9. I played Ice Hockey
  10. I am a self-published author. A Night of Magic and When Infertility Happens: 31 Days of Prayer and Workbook-both available on Amazon
  11. I live in Michigan
  12. I have a major sweet tooth
  13. I have two sisters, one older and one is my twin
  14. I graduated from Western Michigan University with a Bachelor’s in Sales and Business Marketing in 2010. I received my MBA in 2012.
  15. I journal, religiously.
  16. I love to cook
  17. I am a coffee addict
  18. I love participating in races (mostly 5k’s & 10k’s, ran ONE 1/2 marathon in 2 hours, 1 minute)
  19. I love doing arts and crafts with my son
  20. I have two pit mixes, Reagan and Carter

When Infertility Happens:31 Days of Prayer and Workbook

After months of pouring my heart into my first paperback book, I’m so pleased to say that it is now available on Amazon Kindle and Paperback on Amazon. I’ve prayed over this project for the past year, and I finally mustered up the courage to pour my hear into something that was so raw and so powerful. Writing this workbook was a way for me to cope with my infertility journey, and it also has helped me learn how to speak to others who are also on a similar journey.

This project has strengthened my faith, my relationship with my husband and my relationship with other people. It has taught me that it’s ok to be vulnerable. It’s taught me even more so that I’m not alone on this infertility journey. Though my infertility journey may differ from someone else’s journey, it’s comforting knowing that we’re not alone. The TTC community has been a tremendous group to gain insight and perspective from, and I’m learned so much from them. I can only hope that those dealing with infertility remembers how important it is to keep their faith.

I pray that those that find themselves with this workbook in hand is able to navigate a bit easier through their journey.

When Infertility Happens: 31 Days of Prayer and Workbook will help refresh your perspective and encourage you along your journey. It includes a month’s worth of prayer, devotions and thought-provoking questions to help you connect with God through prayer during infertility.


Find it here on Amazon. Purchase a paperback copy or download a Kindle version!

14 Ways Pregnancy After Miscarriage is Different

I’ll never forget the moment I received that phone call. It was a sunny, cold Monday afternoon, and I was sitting in my favorite recliner sipping on coffee. I was elated because the Saturday before we had gotten a BFP-one that we had been waiting on for so long. Our FET had worked, and we were so excited.

As I grabbed the phone knowing it was the fertility center calling with my beta hcg levels, I wasn’t prepared to hear that our hcg level was 14. 14. Our doctor told us that for a viable pregnancy to happen, the number would have needed to be higher. We were having a miscarriage.

I was devastated. I hung up the phone and just cried.

That moment, that instance, that call.. will forever haunt me.

For me, losing a pregnancy was difficult. What has been surprisingly harder, in some ways anyways, was getting pregnant after this loss. Literally we conceived naturally a mere 2.5 weeks later. When we found out we were expecting, we weren’t as elated as we should have been. Between the constant fear of something going wrong and obsessing over factors I had zero control over, I have been a wreck this pregnancy. I haven’t been able to thoroughly enjoy it.

Here are some reasons why my being pregnancy following loss is different:

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When Miracles Happen

They say miracles happen when you least expect them..

There is no doubt that God is real and that He has been with my husband and I throughout our entire infertility season. During the heartbreak and the tears, the joys and triumphs, He has been there every step of the way. He has a funny way of answering our prayers.

As most of you know, Jason and I experienced an early miscarriage back in November after FET. We were devastated. We have been taking this time to reflect, to heal, to mourn and to think about our future. Little did we know that during that time, God was performing miracles.

On the morning of January 19th, I woke up not feeling well. That entire week I hadn’t been feeling well as I was suffering from a sinus infection. I was tired, I was nauseous and for some reason my boobs hurt (ladies, you understand the pain). With little thought, I grabbed the last at-home pregnancy test I had and took the test. To my shock, the test was positive. I didn’t get too excited because I thought that maybe the antibiotics had triggered the test to be positive in some way. I called the Fertility Center and spoke with my nurse. After reviewing my chart, she advised me that they wanted me to go to the hospital to undergo blood work. I obliged, but was cautiously optimistic.

I called my husband to tell him what was going on as he was stuck at work. He immediately got excited. I told him to be calm because we didn’t know what this was.

After leaving the hospital, I stopped at the store to grab a few more pregnancy tests. Once I got home, I took another one which came back positive. Ok, I was starting to get excited. But how could this have happened? I tried patiently waiting, but an hour or so after I did the blood work, I called the nurse to tell her I had had another positive test.

“Congratulations, you’re like really pregnant!” she expressed! “Your hcg level is 79,000!”

“What?!” I cried. Guys, I started ugly crying! Like bad.

“We want you to come in for an ultrasound. We want to see how far along you are. Those levels are really high so you’re either having multiples or you’re really far along!”

I had an ultrasound that day. We were nearly 8 weeks pregnant! Heart rate was 154 and the baby was measuring at 7 weeks, 5 days! Our doctor said we naturally conceived at the beginning of December, somewhere around the 10th. We conceived naturally after experiencing a miscarriage, and we didn’t even know it!

I called Jason to tell him, since he was still stuck at work. He was in shock!

There it is. We’re PREGNANT! We are due with miracle baby #2 September 3rd!

Braxton was also conceived naturally in between treatments, too! Crazy, right?

This wasn’t science. This was alllllll God.

We ask that you continue praying for us during our pregnancy. We greatly appreciate all of the support, encouragement, love and prayers over the years. It’s been quite the journey, to say the least.

I continue to pray for all of my fertility sisters who are struggling with infertility.

All our love,

Danielle & Jason

“I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him” -1 Samuel 1:27