It’s not easy to sit and wait for something you want so badly to have.
Waiting is one of the hardest parts.
When you’re trying to get your finances in order and see if you can afford IVF, it takes a toll on a couple, but not for the reasons you might think.
It’s not hard for me to justify spending $8-10k+ on IVF because I know in my heart that I want 1 or 2 more children. I have always wanted three kids, and it’s nothing but devastating to hear that in reality that might not happen.
My husband and I have been asked on numerous occasions if spending that kind of money for another child is worth it.
Yes, it fucking is.
Pardon the language, but I’m tired of having to justify our decision to have another child.
We also hear “man, that’s a lot of money you guys”
Thank you. We are aware.
We get people who will just look at us like we are crazy.
Spare us the ridicule and judgmental eyes.
It doesn’t matter if we have to pay in order to have another child.
I’m exhausted hearing all of the ways we could otherwise spend that kind of money.
Please just stop.
We understand that thousands of dollars is a lot of money, but it’s only a couple thousand dollars compared to having another beautiful child, memories for a lifetime, hugs and kisses every day and giggles to fill the house.
It’ll be worth it.
As someone who has dealt with infertility in the past and currently, my husband and I are the only ones who have the right to question our intentions. It’s our life. It’s our money. It’s our choice. Not anyone else’s.
When you want to grow your family as much as you need to breath, you don’t question how it’ll happen. You’ll do whatever you can do to make it happen.
We know that our God is so great and so loving. We know that he gave us this challenge because he knew that we would overcome it.
I may not always understand his reasoning, but I know that he gave me a voice to speak out about infertility.
And that’s exactly what I’m doing.
When someone tells you they are going to be trying IVF, just be supportive.
You have no idea the amount of time they have invested in starting their family or the amount of tears, heartache and shattered hope they went through before they decided to pursue IVF. Unless you’ve also ventured down that path, it’s hard for to fully understand what they’re truly going through.
Pray for them. Pray that they conceive. Pray they experience a miracle.
Replace judgement or opinion with words of hope, prayer and encouragement.
Infertility is painful. Don’t make their choice of pursuing IVF painful as well.