You’re Not Alone


We weren’t ‘supposed’ to conceive without help.

All of the tests and all of the signs pointed to  IUI or IVF being our only option.

Let me go ahead and define what those terms mean..

IUI (intrauterine insemination) is a procedure that involves placing sperm inside a woman’s uterus to facilitate fertilization. The goal of IUI is that there will be an increased number of sperm that reach the fallopian tubes and subsequently increase the chance of fertilization.

Cost Associated with Procedure: starting at $875

IVF (in vitro fertilization) is the process of fertilization done by manually combining sperm with an egg in a lab. Once they’re combined, the embryo will be transferred back into the uterus.

Cost Associated with Procedure: $8,000-10,000

So, imagine our dismay, our devastation, our heartache that we experienced when we heard that news from our fertility doctor.

We were absolutely devastated.

There are absolutely no words that can help minimize the affects that kind of news has on someone. Absolutely none.

For those who have been following my blog, you know that we did end up conceiving…naturally without the help of fertility drugs and doctors.

As you may recall, we had just started treatment when we decided to take a month or two off to let our bodies heal. Fertility drugs and treatment, for those who are unaware, are trying on the body.

Somehow, we got pregnant during the break from treatment.

But…we weren’t supposed to, remember?


The point of this post is to give hope to all those trying to conceive and expand your family. Whether you are trying for your first child, or whether you’re trying for your third, the pain associated with infertility is the same.

My husband and I were fortunate to have conceived naturally without treatment after trying for two years, but as we try for #2, we are, again, faced with infertility.

I know it’s hard to hold onto hope. It’s really fucking hard. It’s emotionally and physically exhausting.

Some days we wanted to give up. Some days we couldn’t imagine continuing on because of the difficult journey and the obstacles that we faced long the way.

My advice to anyone trying to conceive is to hold onto hope.The hope you have for starting a family. The hope you have for expanding your family.

Silence those thoughts of giving up. Persevere and push towards what you want.

I know it’s easier said than done. Trust me..I understand everything that you’re feeling because I’ve been there. I’m there again now.

Whether you’re able to conceive naturally without help or with fertility help,  or if you venture down another path like adoption, for example, be happy in knowing that you were able to take that next step towards having what you so deeply desire.

It doesn’t matter how you do it as long as you don’t give up.

Those that have recently embarked on or have already been on the infertility journey, I want you to know that you’re not alone.

You are some of the bravest, strongest people I know.

There are so many people who are on this journey with you..myself included.

Here is a Prayer…

Dear God,

Please give us the strength to endure this situation, and to find the blessings and lessons that it contains.

Please give us endurance and strength to continue on.

Please guide our thoughts, words and actions so that we can walk in your path of peace and love.





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